Ways to Nurture Your Relationship - between the Holidays

Updated: Mar 18

Ways to Nurture Your Romantic Relationship

Relationships can be difficult. Especially when we get caught up in the day-to-day agenda of life which can become very stressful! Sometimes, it can be easy to get focused on the pressing priorities of getting our checklists completed, but if we’re not careful, this can put our romantic relationships on the sidelines.

Nurture Your Relationship with date nights

Don’t get me wrong, in this case your partner is typically still your top priority, but it is quite common that a “comfortable” or “safe” relationship can feel like it can be “maintenance free”. Unfortunately, if we become set in this mindset of a “maintenance free” relationship, we can forget how important it is to continue to put that time and effort into the relationship. If we forget to set aside time for growth in our relationship, this can lead us into the path of being on different pages through breakdown in communication.

Here are a couple of ways to make sure your romantic relationship stays on the forefront:

Have a date night on the calendar, always!

Whether your schedule can handle one day a week or even only one day a month, having a date marked on the calendar for date night can ensure that you have time together. Tip: while on your date, schedule the next date so you don’t forget. (for some date night ideas see the link below).

Find out each other’s love language, and use it to your advantage!

It is human nature to feel wanted and desired, so it can be helpful to find little ways to show your partner you are thinking of them. If you haven’t explored love languages, it can be a really effective way to “speak each other’s language”. (Tip: this can be a date night idea!) Here is the website to take the love languages quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/ . Once you figure out ways your partner best receives love, integrate that into a weekly task. Remember, little things can go a long way! These gestures do not have to be extravagant, nor do they have to take a ton of time. Spending a minute or two “showing” love per week can make a world of a difference in nurturing your romantic relationship.

Seduction starts the minute sex is finished.

Keep in mind, seduction starts the minute sex is finished. Think of it as a slow build up to the grand finale. Even if sex isn’t a regular scheduled event of the week, and it’s something that occurs once per month, prioritizing seduction will help build up during the “in-between” time.

Don’t wait to talk about something, big or small.

No matter the size of the problem, if something is on your mind, it is SO important to find time to talk about it. Communication (specifically assertive communication) is how we can remain confident in ourselves and in our relationships. If something is bothering you, communicate that with your partner. After all, you are a team. Remember, it’s the two of you against the problem (i.e., how can we resolve this together) as opposed to you vs. me vs. the problem.

You’ve got this!